Five Reasons to Start Before You’re Ready

It will shock no one to find out that I’ve always been a planner.  An extreme planner.  And, although I’m familiar with the phrase “start before you’re ready”, I’ve never followed it.  Until recently.  For years, I said “no” to doing anything before I felt completely ready.  To do otherwise seemed a bit crazy. I’m learning that starting before you’re ready is truly sage advice.  Especially when it comes to doing something new or scary.  Because I won’t ever “feel” ready to do any of those things.  Which means I haven’t been doing them.   So, even though my ultra […]

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Embarking on a New Path

For the past month, I’ve promised to share what I’m up to with you. And it’s finally time for that. As most of you know, I’m a lawyer. I’ve practiced law for over 18 years (the past 13 of them with the same firm). And I’ve chosen to leave my legal career behind. For coaching. I’ve received quite a few questions about my choice. Most of them boil down to two main questions. Why? How did I get here? I’ll try to give you those answers today. As you’ve likely gathered by now, I’ve struggled with my purpose and place […]

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How to Overcome Fear of Change (Especially When It’s Change We Want)

  When you play it too safe, you’re taking the biggest risk of your life. Time is the only wealth we’re given. – Barbara Sher     Why Do We Fear Change? Do you fear change?  Does “change anxiety” hold you back from something you’ve always wanted to do?  I’ll let you in on a little secret: for years, I allowed fear to stop me in my tracks from making a wanted change.  Although I enjoyed practicing law, I’ve known from the beginning that I didn’t want to practice past age 55 (please don’t ask why age 55, as I […]

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Saying Goodbye is Bittersweet

Saying “goodbye” is often difficult.  Especially when it’s a “true” goodbye.  You know what I mean by that, don’t you?  When you’re not certain when or whether you’ll see someone again, but you like them – maybe even a lot.  Yet you’re still in the position of saying “adios”.  I’m in that predicament as we speak.  You see, my last day with my law firm is Friday – and it feels really strange (and quite honestly, a bit melancholy). Maybe I should back up a bit.  I’ve decided to start a new business – one in which I won’t be […]

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Being Intentionally Happy

  I believe that it’s extremely difficult to live a fulfilling and happy life unless we’re living with intention.   And one of the most important concepts to understand when living intentionally relates to happiness:  that we have a choice of whether or not to be happy. If this seems like a bit of déjà vu to you, you’re right.  I’ve touched on this topic once before.  However, I’ve received some feedback and thought further on it and want to revisit it a bit today – so please bear with me. To recap my initial point:  happiness is a choice […]

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The Responsibilities and Rewards of Parenting

When I first became a mom, I had a few freak-out moments over the huge responsibility facing me as a new mom and the fact that my life had changed forever – virtually overnight.  I remember clearly the fear I felt driving my new-born Zachary home from our first doctor’s appointment.  In that moment, I realized what a responsibility I’d taken on and was a bit overwhelmed by it all.   A few nights later, when Zachary was sleeping soundly and I was starving (with nothing to eat in the house), it hit me that my life had changed forever.  I […]

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Hatred Won’t Drive Out Hate (But it Will Consume You)

  “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.     Do you consider yourself a hater?  I bet you don’t.  Yet you just may be.  I’ve noticed a lot of people on social media (and in social settings) that like to post/talk about how much we should love one another and how we need to stop the hate, who then turn around and spew forth their own hatred a few short hours (or even minutes) later.  I’d love to think that they’re […]

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Truth Series, Part III: Being Authentically You

When I first started practicing law, I was mortified by the way that many of the partners I worked for practiced.  They were constantly fighting fires that they created – without any awareness that they had created them.  This caused a lot of stress and made our work quite overwhelming.  They often took work from people they didn’t like.  And let me tell you: there’s nothing like working over the weekend or late nights for someone you don’t like.  They often over-promised when completely unnecessary (it really isn’t necessary to promise something difficult can be done in 3 days when […]

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Truth Series, Part II: Who Are You, Really?

Last week I asked you to think about how you currently define yourself.  What did you find?  Do you define yourself based on what you do?  Do you define yourself based on what you think you should value (instead of what you truly value)?  Or maybe you define yourself by something that has happened to you – like an illness (such as cancer). If you use one of the above methods to define yourself, or any other number of methods that are unrelated to who you are deep within your soul, I’m suggesting that you should take a deeper look. […]

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Truth Series, Part I: How Do You Define Yourself?

Today is the first of a three-part series that I’m calling the Truth Series.  It’s about knowing who you are deep within your soul and owning up to it.  Over the next few weeks we will dive into how to figure out who you are, how that relates to how you should define yourself (hint:  they should be the same), how to own up to it (and what I mean by that) and the benefits of doing all the above. When I was undergoing cancer treatment, I met some people who were so encompassed by their cancer diagnosis that they […]

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