Embarking on a New Path

For the past month, I’ve promised to share what I’m up to with you. And it’s finally time for that. As most of you know, I’m a lawyer. I’ve practiced law for over 18 years (the past 13 of them with the same firm). And I’ve chosen to leave my legal career behind. For coaching. I’ve received quite a few questions about my choice. Most of them boil down to two main questions. Why? How did I get here? I’ll try to give you those answers today. As you’ve likely gathered by now, I’ve struggled with my purpose and place […]

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Saying Goodbye is Bittersweet

Saying “goodbye” is often difficult.  Especially when it’s a “true” goodbye.  You know what I mean by that, don’t you?  When you’re not certain when or whether you’ll see someone again, but you like them – maybe even a lot.  Yet you’re still in the position of saying “adios”.  I’m in that predicament as we speak.  You see, my last day with my law firm is Friday – and it feels really strange (and quite honestly, a bit melancholy). Maybe I should back up a bit.  I’ve decided to start a new business – one in which I won’t be […]

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Being Intentionally Happy

  I believe that it’s extremely difficult to live a fulfilling and happy life unless we’re living with intention.   And one of the most important concepts to understand when living intentionally relates to happiness:  that we have a choice of whether or not to be happy. If this seems like a bit of déjà vu to you, you’re right.  I’ve touched on this topic once before.  However, I’ve received some feedback and thought further on it and want to revisit it a bit today – so please bear with me. To recap my initial point:  happiness is a choice […]

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The Responsibilities and Rewards of Parenting

When I first became a mom, I had a few freak-out moments over the huge responsibility facing me as a new mom and the fact that my life had changed forever – virtually overnight.  I remember clearly the fear I felt driving my new-born Zachary home from our first doctor’s appointment.  In that moment, I realized what a responsibility I’d taken on and was a bit overwhelmed by it all.   A few nights later, when Zachary was sleeping soundly and I was starving (with nothing to eat in the house), it hit me that my life had changed forever.  I […]

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Hatred Won’t Drive Out Hate (But it Will Consume You)

  “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.     Do you consider yourself a hater?  I bet you don’t.  Yet you just may be.  I’ve noticed a lot of people on social media (and in social settings) that like to post/talk about how much we should love one another and how we need to stop the hate, who then turn around and spew forth their own hatred a few short hours (or even minutes) later.  I’d love to think that they’re […]

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Come out of the Wilderness

  I think we all need one big collective time out right now – if only we could give time outs to adults.  Especially when it comes to social media and politics.  The one-upmanship I see on social media these days is quite infantile.  And to be honest, it mirrors why we have a President Trump in the first place.  I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again:  Trump reflects society (not the other way around).  Can we all take a cooling off period and then try to listen to one another?  Because what is going on right now […]

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Wrestling with Survivor’s Guilt

Soon after I was diagnosed with breast cancer, some friends threw me a scarf and hat party.  It was something that my husband suggested to them as a way they could help us.  I’m grateful that they did this for me – after all I needed those hats and scarves and used them a ton (and I use some of them to this day).  Unfortunately, I hated every moment of it.  The party felt weird – that’s the only way to put it.  It felt forced, like we were all walking on eggshells trying to act as though nothing was […]

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Why I Don’t Believe in New Year’s Resolutions

I mentioned last week that I don’t do New Year’s resolutions.  To me, they seem somewhat forced.  Actually, contrived is a better word.  If you REALLY want to change something in your life, why wait until the beginning of a new year to do so?  And we’ve all heard the statistics – most people give up relatively quickly.  Why? Why I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions Reason Number 1: Half-Hearted and “Should” Resolutions First, I think that many of us come up with a New Year’s resolution somewhat half-heartedly.  We do it because it’s something that we think we’re […]

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Choose to be the Best Plum (and not a Second-Rate Banana)

Happy, happy, happy New Year! As we move forward into 2017, many of us are making long-term plans for the year and trying to figure out our New Year’s resolutions. I don’t do New Year’s resolutions (more about that next week). However, at the beginning of each year I do think about what I want to accomplish and set some new goals for the year – both personally and professionally. As you go through your process of planning, resolution-making, goal-setting and/or deep thinking (whatever you like to do to kick off the new year), I want to make certain you […]

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Letting Go of Holiday Perfectionism

Do you have issues with holiday perfectionism?  I have suffered from it for years.  It all started with the “perfect” Christmas tree.  Ever since I’ve been married and had my house, my Christmas tree had to have the right amount of lights – several strings of lights deeply set within the tree and several more strings of lights on the outside branches.  One year early in my marriage, my poor husband tried to help.  After an hour of fighting he swore that he would never help me with the tree again (and he hasn’t).   Jeff didn’t quite understand why […]

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